Marriage is an empty contract. It’s null and void. No state or religious law can genuinely make persons spouses. Marriage is a cultural invention that we go along with.
Marriage must not be sanctioned by the state or protected by it for it has no real authority to do it.
Marriage contravenes the rule that the state must not take orders from the Church. Marriage suggests that some higher power has decreed that sexual intercourse between husband and wife is the norm so it is a religious construct. As marriage makes no sense, it follows that those who think it does are giving way to magical thinking.
Marriage attempts to bind by law what should be bound by affection alone so it is manipulative and deceitful. It tries to make people choose each other the once when they should be choosing each other every day.
It is not possible to argue that commitment makes marriage real - most say that the polygamist and his two wives who would break a record for devotion and love are still illicit and the marriage is a mockery and void.
All the alleged benefits of marriage can be gained without it provided the law is set up right.
When you get married it is because of how you felt about the person in the past and how you feel in the present but how can you intend to stay with that person forever for you don’t know what changes will happen? In short, you can’t really mean the vows though you think you do.
Marriage implies that divorce is wrong for your spouse is closer to you than your mother and father and you can’t divorce them so you can’t divorce your spouse. It’s a prison.
Marriage implies that society and the Church have the right to control your sex life and tell you when to have babies because it is asking them for permission. You could use an alternative but you don’t you just legitimise your sexual union in the eyes the law which is looking for permission. In fact, it is none of their business. Marriage insults one-parent families and is discriminatory by inferring that these are not the ideal. The truth is, any family situation can be a success if people try hard enough. Sexual tastes vary from person to person just like our taste for food and drink does and marriage discriminates against those who don’t like intercourse for it is necessary for marriage to be recognised as valid. It discriminates against homosexuals though if sex is consensual and reasonably safe it is not wrong. It discriminates against those who thrive in non-monogamous relationships – and encourages those for whom monogamy would not be normal to imagine that monogamy is for them which has usually disastrous results.