When people claim to have a relationship with God, serious conceptual problems arise. Love is often presented as entirely good, yet love also contains a darker dimension. To love someone is to commit to protecting them, which can include hostility toward anything perceived as a threat. Love also involves self-sacrifice: accepting harm to oneself so that another might not be harmed.
Although God is traditionally defined as incapable of being harmed, loving God still requires treating him as if he can be harmed. The more intensely one claims to love God, the stronger the perceived obligation to oppose whatever is believed to offend or threaten him. This dynamic naturally generates fear—fear of what others might do to God or to God’s wishes. As religious traditions often claim that fear of God is purposeful and virtuous, love and fear become intertwined.
However, fear and love are psychologically incompatible. Where fear dominates, love is diminished. Many believers oscillate between what they interpret as love and what is plainly fear. This tension may help explain why religions centered on love have historically been associated with violence, moral rigidity, and the normalization of cruelty. Love of God, combined with the belief that one is loved by God, does not necessarily improve this situation.
FINAL THOUGHTS
A relationship with God is conducted through hearsay and your internal notions which are like self-induced hearsay. That is not a relationship. Don't play with your own mind like that. Notably, people with a strong sense of God being by their side are easily fooled by evil people who pretend to be their friends. Each side connects and feeds off the other.
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What do the experts say?
"Religion is an illusion and it derives its strength from the fact that it falls in with our instinctual desires" Sigmund Freud, New Introductory Lectures on Psychoanalysis, 1933.
"Religion is comparable to a childhood neurosis" Sigmund Freud, The Future of an Illusion, 1927.
"Religion is an attempt to get control over the sensory world, in which we are placed, by means of the wish-world, which we have developed inside us as a result of biological and psychological necessities. ... If one attempts to assign to religion its place in man's evolution, it seems not so much to be a lasting acquisition, as a parallel to the neurosis which the civilized individual must pass through on his way from childhood to maturity "Sigmund Freud, Moses and Monotheism, 1939.